And yet you have to use the death of someone to further YOUR agenda in claiming "layers".
There are no layers Linda. I responded with what was in my heart and I would appreciate you just leaving Raymond's passing alone. Remember him for the positives he gave, even though there are negatives, but rejoice in his boyish simplicity of how he saw life. His tenacity to survive but perhaps you might emulate his good points. His undying and driven quest for truth, perhaps you could learn a bit, even if very little, from him.
I would be willing to bet, that I still have free rent in your head and most likely on your other forum as well. However, I would write something as I have written in regard to Raymond, even if it happened to you, for anyone who was/is my friend, and what I would write would be all positives for no matter what, the friendship was real and it occurred in time and there had to be a reason for it happening. It is that memory that should be noted.
Have at what ever it is you wish to prove but using a posted eulogy for someone who was a friend to both of us to further your agenda is most unbecoming.