Okay, but when one feels self-conscious about these perceived flaws, one must ask oneself where this feeling comes from. Few of us even have any single clue about what we, ourselves, genuinely think or feel. Parents and other family, friends, teachers, employers, television, music, etc., have long conditioned us to believe in things that are entirely outside of our own wishes, will, and/or highest good.
When you get down to the actual act of knowing yourself - and this is a lifelong task, not to ever be considered as "done" - you find that those "flaws" are the perceptions of others and actually having nothing to do with the self at all. Yes, when finding oneself, one goes through a great deal of angst and internal turmoil because it's hard to know what is actually you and why it's there. We deny our true selves in a vain (all definitions apply equally and entirely) attempt to satisfy others' expectations. That is a self-inflicted wound that will never heal until we stop doing it. Now compound all the perceived "flaws" and the damage they do to ourselves and to others.
When we don't accept others and their quirks, this leads to our judging them. When we realize that this judgment is actually due to the fact that we are not comfortable with ourselves, we start to suss out the core of the problem. Judgment is the problem. Acceptance is the solution. Accept yourself first in your entirety. Then, bit by bit give yourself a thorough going-over to see how much of you is you and how much is there because you haven't been true to yourself. Then and only then will you see the whys and wherefores of relationships and those influences. Once that process starts in earnest, you will want to give up television, films, magazines, and music altogether because those are poison to our self-awareness.
As you go along, you will have peaks and plateaus of progress in returning yourself to yourself. It's a long and arduous process made even more so because we're ever-changing and ever-growing. This changing and growing accelerates the purer you become and the need to judge or react to judgment lessens all the time.
So perhaps you see now that no one is really flawed unless they choose to accept that as true. No one either has any business judging another as such. All such perceptions need to be redirected back at the self, because that's really the source of all perceptions of some deficit or failing. When we are our true selves, we have only perfection - whether others like it or not.
